Monday, October 27, 2014
Accentuate the Positive- reframing your child's frustrating tendencies
As a mama, I find that sometime it's easy to get discouraged.
My central job involves trying to raise my kids right, troubleshooting the eccentricities of the children, and also bearing the lions' share of the responsibilities that come with seeing, finding, and stick handling all of the challenges that come with that.
Now, because of our mixed lot, we have some serious excess energy being expended, some big time messes being created, and
some serious off-task activities happening here. We have stubborn, moody, strong willed, forgetful, disorganized, inconsistent, and nosy.
That can feel pretty overwhelming sometimes.
Enough on some days to make a body want to pack up and go home.
Oh wait. We homeschool. I am home. Back to the drawing board.
Tongue in cheek, and to help me keep my sanity, I have to reframe much of what I see in the positive:
Their leadership tendency is so strong that they don't recognize anyone else's authority,
They have will so strong that they will carry through on what ever goals they have to success.
They get so into what they are doing that they can tune out everything else.
They are an individual so spontaneous they constantly have things on the go.
They feel so deeply.
They are willing risk takers, and innovators.
They notices everything, even the smallest details.
What creative problem solvers!
Such enthusiasm, and energy!
Super quick thinkers
And of course, what you see is what you get.
See, all of the things that frustrate one about a person can be reframed to see what's good about it.
Have you ever heard the saying about a person's greatest strength is their greatest weakness? Well, I believe that applies here.
It's just a matter of stick handling that in the right direction.
We work constantly at it. Sometimes the trickiest part is remembering to do this when you're frustrated.